Ashley Madison is a company that profits from people who are interested in committing adultery. This past Presidents’ Day (February 17), they advertised through a billboard along Interstate 30 in Little Rock, AR. The billboard showed a picture of three former U.S. presidents—Franklin D. Roosevelt, John F. Kennedy, and Bill Clinton—along with the message: Who said cheaters never prosper? Happy Presidents’ Day!
The company has a highly profitable website that states: “Long gone are the days of working late and having an affair with the office secretary. With today’s technology the ability to have a discreet emotional or sexual affair is at your fingertips. You have definitely come to the right website. Ashley Madison’s married dating services can help you find that special someone who makes you feel young and alive again.”
The company’s founder, Noel Biderman, is a Toronto entrepreneur who claims to be happily married with two children. But he also states that, “Monogamy, in my opinion, is a failed experiment.” When confronted with how his company is promoting marital infidelity, Biderman responds by saying that they merely “facilitate cheating rather than promote it.” Even though the company’s trademark is, “Life is short, have an affair,” it also advocates marriage counseling: “If you are having difficulty in your marriage or relationship, you should seek counseling.”
My friends, you can’t have it both ways. You can’t provide a service for people to commit marital unfaithfulness while at the same time encourage people to work out their marital problems. When asked how she would feel if her husband cheated on her, Biderman’s own wife said she would feel “devastated.”
The Bible says, “Does a spring pour forth from the same opening both fresh and salt water? Can a fig tree, my brothers, bear olives, or a grapevine produce figs? Neither can a salt pond yield fresh water” (James 3:11-12).
Ashley Madison is just another example of our broken humanness and cultural degeneration. As Princeton professor, Robert P. George, puts it,
Consider how common it is for people to reason as follows: “My conscience does not tell me that X is wrong; therefore X is not wrong for me.” Or, even more egregiously: “My conscience does not tell me that X is wrong (or wrong for me); therefore I have a right to do X as a matter of freedom of conscience.” Every manner of evil and injustice is today rationalized, defended, and insulated from rebuke by appeal to conscience.
Our culture is sliding down the slippery slope of turning conscience into a green light for whatever feels right or expedient and then claiming that right to engage in the conduct. As Chuck Colson says, “And if it’s a right, why not claim it’s a constitutional right? And if it’s a constitutional right, why not claim a legal immunity even from criticism by others?”
In Planned Parenthood v. Casey (1992), the Supreme Court declared, “At the heart of liberty is the right to define one’s own concepts of existence, of meaning, of the universe, and of the mystery of human life.” The concept of self-will was unheard of until the nineteenth century, and now it is a constitutional right!
The issue is “self-will” vs. “God’s will.” If we do not accept objective standards of truth, universal principles of morality that transcend cultures, then we will become like the people of Israel at the end of the Book of Judges, “Everyone did what was right in his own eyes” (Judges 21:25). That may not bother some who think self-will and individualism trump all values, but once their self-will competes with someone else’s self-will, then we have a problem. This is the case with four-year olds fighting over a toy and governments fighting over who is in charge. Typically, in these battles the old adage rings true: “Might makes right.”
History has proven this time and time again. When there is no higher law, each person defines the law and moral obligation based upon his or her own “concepts of existence, of meaning, of the universe, and of the mystery of human life.” And when those definitions clash, which they always will, those with power make their ideology supreme.
Not all agree, but depraved beings we are, and we only have two options for restraining the evil that resides within: One is through our surrender to the higher law established by God Himself, and the other is our surrender to those with the power to enforce their concepts of existence and meaning on everyone else. As Colson writes, “You take away the internal restraints of the heart and conscience, and you are controlled by force. Take away a nation’s Bibles; polish up the bayonets.” Bibles or bayonets? History has proven that Bibles are always the better choice.